Overthinking Things

Hey guys!

Today I wanted to talk about something that causes a lot of guys problems. Overthinking.
A large number of questions I receive from guys learning pick up, boil down to the fact that the guy is just overthinking things.

A big problem with this is that you will sit and think "Ok, so how should I ask this girl out?" or "How should I ask this girl for her phone number?" or whatever it might be, instead of just simply saying "Hey, lets hangout" or "Hey put your number in my phone."

Yes, there are better ways to number close or ask a girl to hangout, but keeping it simple and just asking a girl to hangout or for her number is A TRILLION times better than overthinking it and missing the opportunity all together.

(Honestly, 9 out of 10 times that I ask a girl on a date, its as simple as "You're adorable, and you seem awesome so far. Whats your schedule like for the next few days?" And whichever day she says shes free, I just say lets hangout that day (provided that I'm free that day as well.) There's no need to overcomplicate things and have some elaborate way of asking her on a date.

I sort of blame the pick-up community for this, because the community forces this idea down your throat that if you can't pick up every girl you talk to then you're some sort of loser. Its getting better in recent years, with guys kind of realizing that the idea of going 5 for 5 and shit like that is bullshit, but it hasn't come full circle yet and a lot of guys still think they need all sorts of ridiculous pick up lines.

So, bottom line: when you find yourself in a situation where you're not exactly sure what to do, just do SOMETHING. Because doing nothing does not help and you learn nothing when do nothing. If you do SOMETHING, even if it doesn't work, you will learn what works and what doesn't work. And that's really what you want. To learn. Those lessons are priceless.